Heat a cooking vessel adding tamarind extract and a cup of water. When it starts boiling add the chopped okra. Adding okras to boiling tamarind juice is mandatory, otherwise the okras will become sticky.
Now add jaggery, turmeric powder,a strand of curry leaves, slit green chillies and a table spoon of salt. Let okras cook till soft.
Once okras are soft, add mashed toor dal/ split pigeon peas. Add water as per the consistency required and bring it boil.
Check for salt, if necessary add salt at this step. Add asafoetida and mix well. Switch off the flame.
Now in a seasoning pan add 2 tbsp of cooking oil, mustard seeds, urad dal, broken red chilly and curry leaves. When mustard seeds splutter add the seasoning to okra curry.
Okra curry/Bende bol koddel is ready to serve. It goes well with hot steamed rice.