Heat a pan/Kadai, add seasoning ingredients oil, mustard seeds, urad dal, broken red chilly and curry leaves one by one.
When mustard seeds start spluttering and urad dal turns to brown, add pieces of bendi/okra/ladies finger.
Saute it well. The ladies finger pieces should be soft and stickiness should disappear completely. This step may take around 10-15 minutes.
Now add jaggery, tamarind extract and salt. Add little water if needed. Let it cook for few minutes with lid closed.
At last add ground coconut masala and stir well for 2 to 3 minutes. Switch off the flame. Now bendi fry/bende kayi palya is ready to be served. This can be a good accompaniment with chapati and rice.